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Reasons I Love Husband # 24987 in a series

Filed Under: Domestic Bliss by Tasmiya — 4 Comments
July 14, 2010

I have decided to be tough with my time management. I have allocated half an hour for lunch and the rest of the time I must spend cleaning, cooking, tidying, vacuuming and sorting. So here I am sitting at my computer during my first ever designated lunchtime  and I have this feeling that this new phase will not be lasting very long.

Yesterday was a hectic day, beginning with me realising that I was supposed to attend a prep information evening at the school that evening. After driving from here to there to there to there, finally getting home and tidying up for a short while and then getting the children from school and then having to cook and eat while panicking because husband was taking a bit long to get home and would I have to lug the children to the info evening?! Because I wouldn’t like that and they certainly wouldn’t. Finally he arrives, he eats while I get ready and reminds me that we are almost out of bread. I walk out thinking I had left everything in a huge mess, so many pots to wash and so much rubbish in the bin and tons of clean dishes to be put away.

The information evening was very little NEW info, since I am such a dab hand at the prep/school thing nowadays. I could have given the talk. On the way home, I texted husband to ask if he needed anything besides the bread and to ask how the children were. Here is his text in its entirety:

All ok here. Kids are showered, now reading and one is in bed sleeping. Lunches are made. Kitchen clean and garbage out. Nothing else needed from shops. Love you very much.

Husband is truly remarkable. I mean look at the text, people. JUST LOOK!

I don’t know anyone who can say they’ve received a text like this from their husband before. (except for you, Susan) – Proper sentences, no annoying contractions and not a “LOL” in sight. Bless him.

Can you all just say mashaAllah and carry on. No evil eye here please.

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Beginning again

Filed Under: Parenting by Tasmiya — 2 Comments
July 13, 2010

I’ve been blessed with 3 easy labours, each easier than the previous so inshaAllah, the next one will be a breeze.

It’s been 10 years since my first pregnancy and while by God’s grace I am coping reasonably well, I am finding that exhaustion comes more quickly and so does impatience. Some nights, after putting the children to bed, I fall into my own and I’m asleep within seconds. Yet I don’t know if this is the hardest pregnancy on me physically; certainly emotionally and mentally it’s been a lot more challenging. I am always torn 3 ways and most of the time I can manage and deal with it. Lately, though I wonder if I can handle being torn in a 4th direction. Already I feel as though I cannot possibly manage to give anymore. So when I have 3 children demanding of me RIGHT THIS MINUTE, it all feels so suffocating. GAH! “Leave me alone!” I want to scream.

Then there is the money issue. We must buy a new car. I say “must” but I suppose we can make do with two trips? Or just use the 2 cars we have. Alhamdulillah how many of us can say we have TWO cars. We are truly blessed. How much to nappies cost nowadays? Do I have enough courage to go cloth? What about baby wipes, nursing pads? How much more will our grocery bill cost? I must learn to forget about daydreaming of a time when all my children are in school and I can give more attention to the home and yes, selfishly, to myself – whether it be leisurely lunches with friends, who knows even a movie in the daytime! or even more time employed.

I have discussed with my husband sending my youngest to day care for the rest of the year (he will start full time school next year inshaAllah) but I wrestle with the idea. Children grow so quickly. In the blink of an eye, my eldest is already 10 years old and we must think about highschool! I don’t have much time before the onslaught of school envelopes my 4 year old. Then am I keeping him home for the wrong reason? Am I being too selfish? Would he benefit? His personality leads me to think otherwise. Would I benefit from extra time? Probably!

And yet despite all the worry there is so much excitement. A new baby! Is there anything that smells more beautiful? Is there anything more enjoyable than a house packed with noise and delightful screams from happy children?

I pray that all goes well, that baby is happy and healthy and a delight to all that lay eyes on him/her.

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