I have a friend (or at least I HAD a friend) a very long time ago when I was living in another city. MashaAllah her family accepted me as their own and I spent many a weekend either at her house, or out with her.
We were very different but surprisingly hit it off. She taught me to SAY what I was feeling, rather than bottling things up and stewing. She taught me to be honest about what I want and to go for it. I think the only thing she ever learnt from me is that dweebs are not actually just imaginary creatures, but we do exist in real life.
After I got married, I saw less of her but maintained contact over the phone and invited her to my place a few times. Then husband and I left to come back home to Brisbane. We sort of lost contact but still emailed once in a while.
Then I don’t know what happened. I had the babies and she got on with her life. I phoned every so often and she was invariably out and about (social butterfly that she is mashaAllah) so I would chat with her mum and we would sit and talk for a good half hour to an hour. Everytime I hung up, I made sure I told Auntie to tell my friend to CALL ME!
She never did.
She’s getting married this weekend and while I am truly not upset that I haven’t been invited to the wedding, I wonder just what happened to our friendship. How can two people go from being so close to not having any contact at all?
What worries me even more is what did I do? Then again, my friend is not one to shy away from confrontation and I thought if I had wronged her in any way, she would be on to me like a mongoose to a snake. Why the silent treatment? Part of me is scared to speak to her should she indeed return my call. I’d hate to think I’ve been a bad person but at the same time I really want to know why we drifted apart so.
